Communication Men Vs. Women

The uniqueness of both men and women is taught from an early age. To pick one difference between the two would be like trying to find a strand of hay in a needle stack, and this is the issue on my plate. It is said that everyone is created equal, though genders disagree by both conduct and design. Men and women are dissimilar from the way they act, feel, talk, and think. As these can all be considered forms of communication, that is what I find the most important difference between the sexes to be. Both men and women communicate oppositely. This can be seen when a man is talking with a group of his friends, a woman with hers, or the two genders discussing together. It is substantial for genders to be able to better identify with each other, not to see who style is more correct or push the other to change, but to identify those differences in order to adapt and understand.

Communication is understood to be the process of transmitting and receiving messages to oneself or another entity, usually via a mutually understood set of signs, as described by the Wikipedia online dictionary. The problem with men and women comprehending each other is that they generally do not share a mutual set of signs. This is because, even though I am speaking of sexes that share the same national language, they do not have the same style of communicating. Also, the two genders have separate subjects and forms in which they prefer to discuss. Men tend to be more direct and to the point in conversations, whereas women tend to be more talkative and concerned with details. These differences are apparent in relationships and friendships, at home and in the work place.

When women make friends, it is usually on a very strong and deep level. This is because they often share their deepest and most intimate feelings with one another. Women use words to express their feelings and emotionally connect themselves. Often, females prefer to speak of people, their relationships, and how they are feeling. They communicate in this way to be able to express themselves, give and receive support, connect, and understand. When talking in person, women like to speak face to face, this makes it able for each to view the emotions shown by their facial expressions. Women can speak on the phone or in person for hours discussing everything and anything on their mind.

For example, last year my best friend since elementary school moved to Texas, and she is still my closest friend. In fact, if we don't talk at least every couple of days one believes the other is upset at her. We spend hours on the phone sharing every detail together including everything that goes on at work, at home, and in relationships. When she comes to visit, we spend as much time together as possible, and she always calls me as soon as she gets home and we spend another hour talking about what happened on her trip home. Most women would not find this type of closeness odd, we are best friends. Men, on the other hand, such as both mine and my best friend's partner, cannot fathom how we can spend an entire day together and then go home and talk on the phone about what we did together. This is because men usually do not share this type of closeness with friends, perhaps not even with their lovers.

Coincidently, my boyfriend was going through the same type of situation at the same time with his best friend moving to Santa Barbara for college. After not hearing from the friend for a while, I asked my partner if he had spoken to him. He replied, explaining that it had been about a month, and he had last spoken with him a few days after his arrival to his new home. In hearing this, I immediately started worrying expressing my feelings, wanting to know why they were arguing. He explained that nothing was wrong, he just hasn't had a reason to call and figures his friend has probably been busy anyway. As men would find the relationship between my friend and I absurd, I cannot comprehend how they can go so long without speaking, for I know their friendship is as strong as the one I share with my friend.

Men act in this manner because they use communication as a way to establish status from other men. It is more likely for men to speak of business or sports, than how they are feeling or what happened throughout the day. When discussingsubjects, males are generally to the point using precise words without descriptive details. It is said, when speaking in person, men sit side by side so as not to convey the emotions that may be available by their facial expressions. Two men that are talking on the phone, are apt to have a short conversation calling with an agenda and sticking to it strictly. Men do not spend long amounts of time going over their problems, this is because if one brings up a problem the other will try and provide a solution rather than delving deeper into the situation. Women usually find this action offensive, believing that the