Marriage Problems in Pakistan

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Marriage Problems in Pakistan

Submitted by:

Muneeb Raghib

Contents

Marriage Problems in Pakistan

Introduction:

Marriage is a not a relation between a male and female but it is a path in which two families get to know each other. Pakistani society contains many types of different cultures and in most cultures marriage failures have been noticed largely. Some of the causes for marriage failures are Parental influence, Lack of interest in marriage, Dowry, Honor killings, Exchange marriages, early marriages. Dowry problems are more getting common in the rural areas of Pakistan. These causes lead to bigger crimes of the society. People often don’t realize that they also have been a victim of these problems in their daily life or they have made someone their victim for dowry or for some other greed. Marriage in Pakistan is considered a big relation and people try to stabilize their marriages by cooperating with their spouse. These problems have gone out of hand and NGOs are making efforts to resolve these social problems

“To truly know another, we must be willing to see the world through their eyes, not simply our own. If we listened as well as we spoke, really connecting would take care of itself . . .”

Research Focus:

• Dowry Problems affects marriages
• Class difference causes problems in marriage
• Marriage affected by parental influence
• Marriage failure can be seen in Love marriages or Arrange marriage

ACKNOWLEDGMENT

We have taken efforts in this project. However, it would not have been possible without the kind support and help of many individuals. I would like to extend my sincere thanks to all of them. We are highly indebted to Dr. Javed Hussain for his guidance and constant supervision as well as for providing necessary information regarding the project & also for their support in completing the project. We would like to express our gratitude towards Syed Raghib Mubin & Umair Arshad for their kind co-operation and encouragement which help us in completion of this project. We would like to express our special gratitude and thanks to the students of Iqra University for giving us such attention and time. Our thanks and appreciations also go to our colleagues in developing the project and people who have willingly helped me out with their abilities.

Literature Review:

Arranged Marriages and Distrust:

Influence of Parental Choice

Author: Wiley Blackwell

Name of Publisher: Science Daily

Date of Publishing: February 1, 2011.

In Pakistani Society, a person is restricted by his/her parents’ choice of their mate selection and cannot choose his/her mate, and that leads to the distrust between husband and wife, this distrust causes many problems on daily base. In some culture, rules, behavioral practice, it is forbid for the boy or girl to choose their life mate. Parental influence has been seen in Muslims, Indians, Chinese, Turkish, Moroccan and South Asian societies.It has been noted by researchers that an arranged marriage is based on good references and sometimes it includes the choice of boy or girl. Researchers also saw that people who are arrange married sometimes find it difficult to build good communication with their partners and that leads to the insecurities and other marriage problems. Sometimes arrange marriages are made to achieve a higher status if a boy does not belong to the higher community. Freedom of choosing own’s mate should be given to encourage creating loved-based unions, it is noted that in cultures where freedom of mate selection is given there are less problems seen. If a marriage is not based on choice or love a person is more likely to become jealous over seemingly inconsequential events. This is probably because it is harder to be sure that the other person is in love with you out of their own volition.

Honor Killings and Dowry Deaths

Author: The Nation

Name of Publisher: The Nation

Date of publishing: 8 March 2011

8 March is declared to be the international women’s day but it is tragic that 9,670 women were killed in Punjab since last 5 years for the sake of honor killings and dowry demands. The day before the international women’s day, the human rights commission presented a report for the women violation in Pakistan. This report indicates that out of 9,670 women, close relatives like brother, father, husband and others killed 1,638 women. An amount of 8,041 women were killed for the reason of property disputes and related issues. The other 3,379 women were killed for not bringing dowry and demanding their rights. These women were mostly killed by two ways, through burning and the acid throwing. There are hundreds of women who are facing the karokari issue other such honor killings and infamous Hudood Ordinance are sent to prisons of the country are dealt with really harsh behavior. These victims are still not heard and are waiting for justice for them. Press United to Serve Humanity (PUSH), a Pakistan-based non-profit, non-governmental and non-sectarian consortium of journalists is working for the freedom of those victims and to protect the human rights. A particular day is selected to celebrate the social, economic and political achievement of women all around the world including Pakistan. On the international women’s day it is promised to struggle for the rights of women and the women are congratulated for their efforts in this regards. The government of Pakistan has taken some steps forward to improve the position of women in the Pakistani society. The NGO named as PUSH has demanded implementation of laws against the women rights violation. Pakistani women has work hard to pass the women protection bill and even got some points passed in that but on the other hand there are some hurdles too due to the religious concepts. PUSH Pakistan has appreciated those women for their efforts.