Psychology Paper On Attachment Theory

Running head: ATTACHMENT THEORY

Attachment Theory

In APA Style

Taylor Silvia

Abstract

In my essay Attachment Theory the writer will discuss how his attachment with his mother as a child affected him in his adulthood. The writer will discuss how he was a child and how he is today in relationships and daily life.

I was born on May 1, 1990 into a rough time for my parents and family and was not expecting another child. At the time my brother was going through treatment at the age of four for leukemia in New York City. So therefore my mother wasn't always there she said from going back and forth from the city with my brother I was left with my grandparents a lot. My mother said that when she was with me though she held me as much as she could. She also said that her parents and my father's would tell her that they shouldn't hold me all the time. So I guess you would say as a child I was secure attached as a child. You would think that I would have a really strong bond with my grandparents which I do but not as strong as I do with my mother. Even though I was left a lot I knew she would always come to me. My mother also said I was breast fed the longest and held the longest out of my brother and sister and she believes I have turned out the best with relationships such as friends and love.

My mother told me that I wasn't happy every time she left me but I wasn't like out of control and hysterical. Although my mother held me a lot she had also let me explore and learn on my own. By holding me and letting me go I learned basic trust with her that she would be there and I would be ok. Not knowing but all this would create the basis for how I am today.

I remember one experience where I had separation anxiety from my mother was the first day of preschool. This was the first time where I was not going to be with anyone that I was close to and I recall crying and screaming at the front door. Then I remember my mother grabbing me and hugging me telling me that it's ok and I'm going to have a great time. From there the teacher took my hand and we went inside. Once I walked through that door I was completely fine and never had another problem going.

From the way I was as a child with my mother has created me to have a love attachment style. My love attachment style would most likely be described as the "secure style". The secure style is defined as in Invitation to Psychology as "finding it relatively easy to get close to others and comfortable depending on them and having them depending on me. I don't often worry about being abandoned or about someone getting too close." This does describe how I am today very closely. I am always in a serious relationship and enjoy having someone depend on me. I currently am in a relationship that is over a year and going strong. I also find it very easy