The Chrysanthemums: Two Is Better Than one

Two is better than one

Single parenting has become nowadays more acceptable by society but I believe is a very bad way to raise your kids. The story "the chrysanthemums" deals with something very similar that couples go through these days when they want to get divorce. Just like in the story we go to a judge and they fight over who takes the rights over our kids. In the story the woman would sacrifice losing her son than to see him dead but in the world we live in now people make the rational choice to become a single parent. Being a single parent is a dumb idea because the kid grows lonelier, the child won’t learn what a relationship is and the child has whatever problem the parent has.

First of all when in need of support, the child does not have a second parent to turn to. In the real world people have complication, adults have problems, work to attend or just times of frustration. These are times that the parent won’t be there emotionally for the child. Since there’s no other parent there for them, it’s a major problem for the child because it creates the feeling of loneliness and nobody being there for comfort. It puts them in very needy stage where they need compassion from somebody and it’s why they get attached to other people and this causes them more damage emotionally giving the feeling that everyone leaves. We mainly see this in very young kids but it creates some berried memories that live up with them.

To add to being lonely, a child that never lived in a full house hold and doesn’t know how having both parents’ works. They will feel safer knowing there’s two parents there for them. They will also get a feel of how two adult live with each other, how to get along, settle arguments, how to cooperate. This is the backbone to our personality and are things you learn at home first and then apply them to the outside world once you grow up. Not having this in our early child hood changes the way they see relationship and they tend to get hurt when it comes to changes