The Love Vs War of Becoming a Parent

Jessica Border

English 102-Section 226264

Analogy Essay

The love vs war of becoming a parent

Every little girl waits for that one lucky day where she gets to stop pretending to play house and take on that role. As we grow up we become more grown up, more mature, capable to take on the duties of being someone’s mother. Although it’s scary and it just gets scarier it’s one of the most amazing feelings and roles that any female can take on.

When a woman finds out she is pregnant it is by far one of the most amazing and scariest feelings. Thought upon thought runs through her head. You contemplate if this is even a good idea? Is this really happening? What do I do now??  Well the answer is it is time to be a parent. It is time to start worrying about yourself less and realizing that there is another human being out there that for the first time in your life is going to be more important than you.

Let’s talk about Jennifer. Jennifer was one of the most selfish people in the world. It was all about her all of the time. People actually catered to her on a daily basis and Jennifer saw nothing wrong with this picture. Jennifer thought that she was invincible. Well Jennifer was graduating High School and found out that she was pregnant. She was also told on many occasions that she could not have children due to a hereditary issue in her family. When she found out that she was pregnant she immediately panicked and didn’t know what she was going to do about the situation. She had thoughts of getting rid of the child, then she thought maybe I will put it up for adoption to an amazing family. Days, weeks, and even months started to go by and although Jennifer was not sure about what she wanted to do she went to sleep that night and decided she would put it in the big guy upstairs hands and if it was meant to be then a sign would appear to her in her dreams.

She had the most amazing dream, and her sign did come. Jennifer dreamt of every scenario possible of being a parent in just 6 short hours. It was almost like she had went through years of her life and seen exactly what was meant to happen to her and even though it will be a battle maybe even a war at times it will be the best decision she’s ever made.  She woke up that morning excited and overwhelmed with the feeling that she knew being a mother was going to be amazing. She knew that keeping this baby was what she indeed had to do. It was the right thing to do. There are people who are not as lucky as Jennifer and put up a fight on a daily basis to have children. She thought she was that person, but apparently the surgery she had when she was younger as well as the 11 doctors telling her she would not ever be able to produce were wrong.

Weeks, even months started to go by, that beautiful little peanut started to get bigger and bigger which meant her appearance started to change. She loved it and hated it at the same time. She knew that even though she was changing she kept telling herself it was for the best.

Daily the little peanut would move and push on Jennifer’s insides, although it was a very amazing feeling there were times where she felt like there was an absolute war going on between herself and this little precious gem. She told herself this is worth it, you shouldn’t even have had the chance to become a mother, you will get through this just keep pushing and everything will be fine.

The battle got stronger and she started to get weaker. She was about 32 weeks along which meant she was close to full term. Her appointments were going well and no issues were occurring until one night she woke up in pain. Jennifer wasn’t sure what was going on but she knew whatever it was it was not normal. She took herself into the emergency room where she ended up being admitted. The doctors did test upon test. She was hooked up to multiple machines. She was scared. TERRIFIED. The doctors proceeded to perform on ultra sound on her to make sure all was well with the peanut.

Minutes went by and it felt like hours. The pain was getting more intense and she was not receiving any answers. The doctors finally came back into the room and explained to her that there were complications and she had lost and generous amount of fluid somehow which meant the baby did not have much to survive on. It was right then and there they knew that she was going to have to deliver the baby if she wanted any chance of the little peanut making it.

She was rushed into an emergency OR. She was awake the whole time and once again thought upon thought started to rush through her head. She prayed to the bug guy upstairs and says “I know everything happens for a reason, please do anything in your power to make sure everything goes as smooth as possible. I will be forever in your debt. Thank You.”